Anyone who knows me in real life knows that I’m a private person. I tend to stand back and observe rather than make myself noticed. It still shocks me to think that I blog and vlog. It’s the complete opposite of something I would naturally care to do, but there’s great reward in doing things that make us uncomfortable.
I may seem calm, comfortable, or confident in my YouTube videos but I’m actually cringing on the inside. Some thoughts that run through my mind include:
- Who do I think I am? No one cares what I have to say.
- Why am I doing this? Someone’s already done it better than me
- Family, friends, and acquaintances will see this and that’s really embarrassing
- I’m not talented enough to present this in a creative, engaging, & approachable way
- I don’t want people to think I’m a narcissist
It’s still a battle sometimes, but I’ve learned to slowly shut these thoughts out. Going through the creative endeavor of blogging has taught me the necessity of vulnerability and building up courage.
Vulnerability – As uncomfortable as it may be, embrace being vulnerable. By putting my (sometimes deeply personal) thoughts and emotions out there, I was opening myself to judgement and criticism from others. That was terrifying. For my first couple of videos, I remember hitting ‘upload’ then immediately closing my laptop for several hours, as if I was playing ding dong ditch. It made me so nervous to think about who would watch and how people would respond to it, if at all. Being ignored can be equally as hurtful as being judged or criticized for your work.
I had to constantly remind myself my why. Why am I talking into a camera alone in my room and posting it for the world to see? Because I want us all to find our true potential and be a better version of ourselves every day.
Vulnerability puts you at risk of being mocked and misunderstood, but know your truth. Be your most authentic self because it can resonate with others, open conversations, and strengthen relationships. Luckily through Jules in Life, that is exactly what happened – I was able to build genuine and compassionate connections.
We only want others to see our perfectly curated life, but imagine if we all just showed a bit of vulnerability once in a while. We have more in common than we think.
Courage – To even think about starting a blog, asking for a raise, or removing a toxic relationship in your life means you are already brave. Be proud of that! Once you begin to make yourself vulnerable and get over the discomfort of these challenges, then you start to build on your courage.
Each step you take towards your goal, regardless of the outcome, is an experience to learn from. For me, each YouTube video I uploaded not only made me more comfortable in front of the camera, but it also made me more comfortable to speak up in real life. It gave me the courage to proudly share my thoughts and opinions in front of others without fear of being judged. After all, other people’s opinions of us are a reflection of themselves.
The more uncomfortable things we do, the better we are for it. We are stronger, braver, and LIMITLESS when we face our fears head on. Each tiny step towards overcoming our discomfort is a feat under our belt.
Here’s a daily reminder to you & me – it’s healthy to get out of our comfort zones. Learning, changing, and growing are all repressed when we stay stagnant. We have so much undiscovered potential to live a life full of magic ✨When was the last time you did something intentionally scary or uncomfortable for yourself?
Hope you have a great weekend! ❤